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It took me back as a nurse, and someone with my abilities with the deceased to read a story I would like to share. It was about a person today, I'll give this person a pseudo name, Frank, who volunteered at a nursing home to work with the sick and dying with the intent to feel more enlightened. He said that all he felt was drained and he concluded that he would stay away from this population from now on and try to stay with people with high energy. Well, I couldn't believe what I heard, not that I couldn't understand that being around dying people could not be draining, especially when their is much sadness, but what struck me was the attitude of thinking one could just avoid being around the dying process. I feel that is why it is so traumatic when it does happen to someone in our lives. We are not a culture that is comfortable with talking about dying, death or even grieving for that matter. In this Western Society, so many of us treat death with such taboo, that it almost seems an unnatural process for adults, teens and children to talk about. When my husband died many years ago, I joined a widows group, I could not believe the critiquing process that took place. Everything from a widow's clothes, to how long one should mourn was up for discussion. Experts, seem to evolve within the group. The women who had been widowed longer,who there by "knew" more would say what was appropriate or not. I quite new to the group at the time remained quiet, but ever so observant. These were my conclusions: in all my observations from the patients, clients, and the widows groups of transitioning through grief I felt the ones that just allowed it to happen naturally did the best. What I mean by that is the ones that spoke about dying like it was just as natural as the process as living, with the expectation of death just like going back home seem to handle it better. The people I spoke to about grieving who didn't place "rules" on how long one should grieve, and were just allowed to do their own thing, were able to move on. I found it odd, some of the ones with all the "rules" were the ones who got "stuck" and had problems moving on. Nothing can replace that physical loss, and it should be honored by mourning it, in your way, so long as you acknowledge it. The deceased wants you to remember them, and as you go through your grieving , It is my belief that one day your sadness will shift to healing with the memory of their love always with you.
Inspiration: something that makes someone want to do something or that gives someone an idea about what to do or create : a force, influence or person that inspires someone,Merriam-Webster dictionary.com. I have been fortunate to have been touched by inspiration at key times in my life, times when I had been through many trials and test and felt alone. It was only in that time of darkness when I turned over my heart, did the warmth of light shine upon me. A person can spend a life time shielding themselves from everything but the truth. If you ask God, the Universe, your Higher Power, for assistance ~ you may find the method or style of help is not what you expected, Maybe, the answer might even come in the form of unanswered prayers. Does a person have to experience a major catastrophe in their life to awaken ? No, but for many it took so long to build those layers of doubt, and denial that sometimes their world has to shake so they can have a chance to rebuild it with new insight. It did for me, it was only through my intense events of experiencing near death and loss, not once but twice, did I fall to my knees and find my own sense of power. There were times when I felt like a gladiator on my path, with what I was experiencing,I miscarried twice, my husband died, rebounded into the arms of more problems, over worked and under appreciated. I carried all this on me like a shield, all that hurt, all that pain, and all the anger of having abilities that I felt I didn't ask for. I thought that God was not listening, but he was, he gave me my abilities so I could hear better, and if I stopped fighting them and stopped searching for help with them, I could realize I always had a direct line for help. My house metaphorically needed to be put back in order, so he helped with the cleaning process. For me, it felt like it was at my weakest moments, when I cried aloud and said, here God I have lost so much, but I know their must be a reason only you know and I am too tired now to pursue, but I trust you. Wow, that was powerful for me, coming from someone who had problems falling back into another's arms and knowing they would catch me. It was then that I experienced a warmth , an embrace and light, that I knew my walls and ceiling in my house may have been knocked down, but my foundation remained strong. I could see this now past the rubble; it was extraordinary, what a repairer, what an architect. I developed this sense of urgency to share this light,
I've sat the rich, the poor, all walks of life, no matter what faith, sexual preference,or baggage just to share this light. I have met others who inspired me and replenished me with their sense of courage and kindness; while others amazed me with their guise of judgement and masquerade of all that is Divine. There will always be those on your path who will try to dim that light. Do not be fooled by the titles or prestige they assume they have, for we are all equal and a part of One both here and on the Other side. There is a cord that connects us all that is blinded to entitlement, vanity, talebearers, and hatred. Encouragement can rejuvenate the Soul, to both receive and send it keeps that light burning bright. Sending inspiration and love to all <333 So, I’ve been hearing allot about this “Mercury Retrograde” being the culprit for why things in our life may not be going right. While cosmically that influence may very well be happening, I feel it’s like our weather here in New England, since you can’t control it, you might as well make the best of it. So, if you find yourself being more emotional, and frustration or drama are trying to be your best friends; be tricky and do something different. You can sabotage those negative culprits by taking control and planning some “you time”. It does not matter what the activity, just something that can rejuvenate you. Now, maybe for someone who is very busy and rigid with their schedule, a personal time out taking a bath versus a quick shower might be all he/she can allow, but consider this, the time you take to release stress; you get back with increased personal power to deal with those daily life, drama culprits.
In conclusion, while the adult in me has been frustrated by all this snow my area has been getting, and all the neighbors with their fancy snow blowers; my inner Child decided to come out and play and make a snow man with my daughter, and I have to say the smile on her face lifted my spirits. Wishing you all a little mischief of fun this week <3 I had a Face book friend ask the question what was a significant thing that affects all people everyday, and the answer she was thinking of was numbers. Well, this made me think of some other things that effect us, and I realized the power of word(s) hold so much energy.
Words can make some one feel happy or steal their personal power away, if you let them. So does a word hold Magic? or does the Speaker? Either way, words can create fear, and fuel misunderstandings, gossip, judgement, unwanted opinions; or they can inspire comfort, guide, and build someone's self esteem up. I feel the true Magic in words is realizing their strength, and honoring that, for yourself, for your children, and for everyone you meet. Happy New Years Preparing for the New Year ~
“You are not stuck where you are, unless you decide to be” ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dryer. So many of us look to the New Year for clearing of the old, letting go of things we no longer need, to embrace the New. It is that time of the year where many of us feel we can begin again, with the support of the Universe. But this ritual of resolutions does not only have to come once a year, it could be any day you choose to be the New day. On that day you can choose to let go of what or whoever has been holding you back, because You deserve better. ~Sending peace & light to the New You, Mary Machaado <3 |
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